Chester Students’ Union: SHAG week
Becky Lees, Vice-President, Academic and Welfare
Kerrie Sprigings, CSU Women’s Officer
Would you like to be part of the growing Women’s forum at Chester Students’ Union? If you are a self defining woman, email Kerrie at firstname.lastname@example.org
“We don’t have to take our clothes off to have a good time”.
SHAG (Sexual Health and Guidance) week is here! This week is all about starting the conversation about SEX, how to look after YOUR sexual health and how to recognise and react to sexual harassment and abuse. We often overhear conversations about the latest conquests students have been on (I am not talking about the next level of Call of Duty or Flappy Birds!) but rarely rhetoric around contraception and harassment.
Is it not cool to talk about these things? Well, this week we are going to tackle some big taboo subjects whilst mixing it up with a bit of fun! We will be giving out FREE SHAG packs, hosting a SHAG week Quiz, STI Testing and speed dating (not at the same time!) and launching a competition which involves a plastic doo darr and durex condoms.
One thing to remember when it comes to the ‘hanky panky’ is that CONSENT is ALWAYS required (even if it’s ‘just’ a kiss) No ifs, no buts.
Consent is saying yes!
What isn’t consent?
- Previous consent
- Being single
- Being in a relationship
- Impaired judgement via drugs/alcohol
If asking for consent seems too uncomfortable or like a buzzkill, maybe reconsider if you should be engaging in sexual acts.
Lack of consent is the starting point of sexual harassment and sexual abuse. Sexual harassment is any unwelcomed sexual conduct from verbal harassment to sexual advances. Sexual harassment isn’t anybody’s fault but the perpetrators!
Sexual Harrasment Myths!
- Women cry rape when they regret having sex or want revenge
- Sexual assault just affects women
- The way a woman is dressed or acting provokes sexual assault
- Women who are drunk or high are asking to be sexually assaulted
- If the victim didn’t fight back or get injured, it wasn’t rape
- Only gay men get raped/only gay men rape
- If the victim did not immediately complain, it wasn’t rape.
Did you know?
- 1 in 7 women students have experienced a serious physical or sexual assault during their time as a student.
- 12% have been stalked while at university or college;
- 68% of respondents have been a victim of one or more kinds of sexual harassment on campus during their time as a student;
- 16% of respondents have experienced unwanted kissing, touching or molesting during their time as a student;
- More than 1 in 10 has been a victim of serious physical violence;
- Students were the majority of perpetrators in most categories (except physical violence where 48% of offenders were students);
- In the majority of cases in all incident categories surveyed, the perpetrator was known to the victim;
- Only 4% of women students who have been seriously sexually assaulted have reported it to their institution;
- Only 10% of women students who have been seriously sexually assaulted have reported it to the police;
- Of those who did not report serious sexual assault to the police, 50% said it was because they felt ashamed or embarrassed, and 43% because thought they would be blamed for what happened.
(NUS, Hidden Marks Report).
If a friend comes to you to voice concerns about something that may have happened to them, please listen to them unconditionally and without judgment.
- Say “How can I help?” and NOT “Why didn’t you get out of there?”
- Make sure that they know it was not their fault
- Think about how they might be feeling and take them seriously (fear, embarrassment, guilt, anger, flashbacks)
- Explain the options for getting help (see the help section below)
- Make it clear that you will be there to support them whatever they decide to do
What is Chester Students’ Union doing to tackle sexual harassment?
– Zero tolerance policy – Chester Students’ Union have adopted a Zero Tolerance approach within our policies and procedures to ensure the Students’ Union is a safe place at all times.
– Women’s officer – For the first time ever, CSU have a Women’s officer, Kerrie Sprigings with a supporting women’s forum to coordinate campaigns in the interest of men and women.
– Relations with the Police– We have a very good relationship with the Police to help keep you safe in the community
– Student Activities Policy – Our Student Activities Policy does not tolerate any form of; peer pressure or bullying among student activities. The policy also promotes respect to peers.
Where can you get help at the University of Chester?
Chester Students’ Union welfare
Lesley Needham 01244513397 (Chester)
Sam Stewart 01925 514660 (Warrington)
Student Support and Guidance welfare
01244 511550 (Chester)
01925 534282 (Warrington)
So, SHAG week is not just about teaching you the importance of wrapping it up, because who wants Chlamydia for Valentine’s day? But we want to empower you to be sexually confident in yourselves, to be able to say ‘That’s not right’ when somebody approaches you with unwanted advances. It doesn’t matter if you are a man, woman, gay, straight, old, young, hairy chested, tall, small, smooth, we are all responsible for our sexual health and we are all responsible for our actions.
So next time you are thinking about getting it on or bumpin’ and grinding – ask yourself:
1. Do you feel comfortable engaging?
2. Is the other person comfortable and consenting?
3. Are we using adequate protection
SHAG WEEK EVENTS
Sunday 9th February – CH1 BIG SEX QUIZ, CH1 Bar, from 9pm.
Best chat up line awarded to Jamie Brown for; “I’m glad I brought my library card! Cos I’m checking you out!”
Most innovative shape made out of a condom was awarded to the Hot Air Balloon!
Monday 10th February – Bit’s and Bob’s cake sale, CSU, 12-2pm.
Wednesday 12th – STI Testing, Quiet Room, CSU, 12-1pm.
Thursday 13th – Speed Dating, CH1, from 7.30pm.